I am telling you that I enjoyed roller coasters in my youth but as an adult they made me queasy...emotional roller coasters have the same sickening effect. One week ago today began a literal daily up and down. The last I left things, I was down...well I am up again! Becca called me this afternoon. My mother left her alone while she went to talk to her pastor (ugh!) and Becca was able to call me during that time. I was able to initiate a 3 way call between all the sisters! (First off, this call came minutes after finding out my biological brother was arrested and charged with DUI and hit and run in late September!) Some of the first words of of my mouth were to tell my sister how sorry I was that she had to be in this situation. Becca told us that mother had been telling her that she (Becca) is confused and not thinking clearly and doesn't know what she is talking about. She went on to tell Becca that if she went to live with her sister they would be "unequally yolked"! Um, talk about taking something out of context!! I let Becca know that was concerning marriage and Naeemah reminded her that "real" Christians are not supposed to judge! My mother had been trying to convince Becca to go live with a lady from their church. Becca showed no interest...just another way to be controlled! Becca told us about being grounded for not keeping her bed clean and being made to sleep on the floor. They were watching the show "Criminal Minds" and the show was a story of teens who played a choking game. Mother turned to Becca and told her if she ever decided to do that that my mother would choke her herself! Last night my mother slept in their living room by the front door so Rebecca couldn't leave...this only 3 hours after telling Naeemah that she would not stop Rebecca from leaving. Rebecca says she definitely want to "get out of here". She sees now that the other kids are never coming back and that she does not want to be 30 still living in that house. We told her how proud we were that she had chosen to tell the truth. Naeemah even said that she had learned something by Rebecca's honesty. I see now that it needed to be this way. I think now that everything is out in the open (well, she still doesn't know that I am directly involved...little surprise for her when that comes to light!!) Rebecca can process this and think through how she wants to proceed. We told her we'll so this however she wants it done. We learned that she is an adult now and deserves a big say in how this goes down!! I am proud of her like I have never been before.
Now it is a waiting game. We told her that if things get bad and she wants to leave before I can make it up there to go ahead and call Naeemah and she'll be there in 2 hours. Otherwise, I can be up there about Valentines Day and we can go about the plan we'd had from the beginning.
I am beginning to lose sight of why we are doing this. The more I hear the angrier I get at my mother and all that she has done and said. I want to go into this with a clear head and a clear heart. I want to do this for Rebecca and not "to" my mother. I am happy for the 2 1/2 weeks that I still have to wait until I can hop on the train and be reunited with my sister. God allow these two weeks to be a time to clear out some of the anger so that I can think and speak clearly. May all be done that is best for Rebecca.
Guess what came in the mail today...Evan's W2's. We'll head to the tax place tonight and have our return in about 2 weeks...hopefully less! Pray it comes in God's timing....oh, and that there is enough!!! Lol:) Thank you all for your persistent thoughts and prayers. I see an end in sight for the hold my mother has over my sister. May this begin a road of healing for Rebecca and possibly for mother.
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